If you are in an abusive relationship:
1. Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits (bathroom), or rooms with weapons (kitchen).
2. Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.
3. Keep change with you at all times.
4. Memorize all important numbers.
5. Establish a "code word or sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.
6. Think about what you will say to your partner if he/she becomes violent.
8. Have a set of clothes for yourself and for your children stored at a friend's house or at work in the event you need to flee your house.
9. Keep sets of important documents (savings account records/check books/safety deposit keys), birth certificates, school records, deeds, other legal documents) away from your house in a safe place that only you can access.
7. Remember you have the right to live without fear and violence.
If you have left the relationship:
1. Change your phone number.
2. Screen calls.
3. Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the batterer.
4. Change locks, if the batterer has a key.
5. Avoid staying alone.
6. Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
7. If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place.
8. Vary your routine.
9. Notify school and work contacts.
10. Call the Shelter for Help in Emergency at 804/293-8509.